Posted by
chaka on Wednesday, August 06, 2008 2:38:14 PM
My soon to be exwife was able to steal my son who was 4 at the time away from me by filing a protection from abuse order against me. With no proof or any questions the judge gave her the order. She did this because I had found out about an affair that she was currently in and I was going to interfer with her plans. I was not able to attend my sons first day at school, or see him on his 5th birthday. She used her so called temporary custody against me by holding my son over my head, telling me to jump through these hoops or you wont see your son. She was able to stale the court system for 10 days shy of a year before the judge even considered hearing my case against her. She stalled the courts 6 times, SIX. I had a private investigator on her for over a year and watched her leave my son home alone with a 10 year old ADD diagnosed child who had violent tendencies, looked up porn on the internet commonly, and continuously abused my son. The mother was absent the majority of the time, out running around with friends, partying, and jumping from man to man, bringing some home to stay with her on occasions. Due to these false accusations I stood by and watched my house get forclosed on, all my belongings were stolen by her and given away to her friends or sold. I left the house with about half my cloths cause that was all that would fit into the car I was driving. To make a long story shorter the day the judge said he would her my case, she gave my son up. Gave him to me! This whole time the judge allowed me to say maybe 20 words to him to defend myself and my son. I had so much hard evidence against this women and no one, NO ONE would take the time to listen or see it, except my lawyer of course. Emergency hearing you ask. Tried it. The judge wouldnt allow it, stating that if my son was in danger we would have brought it up sooner. It took time for me to get the evidence against her to build up enough so I would for sure get my son again. I had to have a pile a mile high to ensure a custody win, since judges like to give children to their mothers, at lease the judge I was dealing with, whether they are good people or not. I had to prove her irresponsable behavior multiple times before the judge would consider allowing me to have custody. I have started my life over with my son and we are both very happy, so at least this had a happy ending, but I was treated as a criminal without any kind of due process and had to sit back and watch everything that I worked for slide away and wasnt able to do anything about it. I was guilty with no proof and the thing most dear to me taken away and held hostage all because of lies and this BS idea that women make better parents because? I have no idea why? This is just the tip of the ice berg of what I went through. I could tell stories that would amaze even those who have heard um all.